You are with yourself 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. You live in your own skin, think your thoughts, and feel your feelings. You know yourself better than anyone. So, why aren’t you your best friend?
Best friends are usually made when we connect with someone who seems to be similar to us or has the same interests. The friendship is strengthened as more time is spent together, as more of who you are is revealed to the other, as you both become transparent and “real”.
On the other hand, enemies avoid each other. There are bad memories, negative emotions, and unresolved issues that keep these people on the other’s “black list”.
What I’m not understanding is why so many of us treat ourselves as an enemy. We have what it takes to make a stellar friendship, but what happens?
Is it worth it to hold yourself to unrealistic expectations of perfection, to refuse to forgive yourself for mistakes in life or relapses with food, to stay angry and resentful for things you wish you’d done differently?
I don’t think so. I think understanding of your situation, compassion for your challenges, and an appreciation of how far you’ve come (whether with eating, seeking peace, reaching out, being vulnerable, pursuing your dreams…) can help repair this strained relationship. I’m pretty sure an “I’m sorry” and a nice long hug (and maybe a good cry) could be the beginning to a lifelong best-friendship.